I went through bouts of indecision on this, but I finally settled with a name I lifted from the LDS sponsored website “Mormons and Gays.” The original context is “God’s law is not ours to change” referring to the church’s “unchanging” stance on gay marriage. The part that gets me is that the LDS church has an ideological out if it ever does okay gay marriage; this out has been used before. Since the church is led by a prophet who has the power to receive revelation—think Moses on Mount Sinai—things can change at the drop of a hat.
Upon its inception the church practiced polygamy, excluded blacks from the priesthood, and had this cool socioeconomic commune thing going. In 1890 the current prophet received revelation that polygamy was out.1 In 1978 there was a revelation that black people could now hold the priesthood. The “law of consecration”2 never officially ended, but it’s not currently practiced… people like owning stuff too much I guess.
Sorry for the history lesson, but it explains part of why I like the title “Not Ours to Change.” Whether it was because God eventually became okay with other races holding the priesthood, or because many wealthy Brazilians donated money to the church in 1975, things—even those once thought to be unchangeable—do change.
The other part of why I like the title is pretty straight forward.3 It’s almost universally accepted that people can’t change their own sexual orientation, yet there is a wide consensus among Mormons4 that people who experience “same-sex attraction” should be working to change themselves. And, well, yeah, I don’t think it’s mine to change.
1Though it should be noted polygamy continued through 1904.
2The Law of Consecration: Give everything you own to the church, and the church will divvy it up more fairly. Also: Karl Marx is a plagiarist.
3Why do I love being gay? Because now every time I use the word “straight” in a nonsexual context it becomes a pun.
4At least the Mormons I know.